HOW TO KNOW IF SOMEONE IS INTO YOU - A COMPLETE GUIDE TO VERBAL AND NON VERBAL SIGNS OF ATTRACTION

*HOW TO KNOW IF SOMEONE IS INTO YOU: A COMPLETE GUIDE TO VERBAL & NON-VERBAL SIGNS OF ATTRACTION*



Trying to figure out whether someone likes you can feel exciting, confusing, and downright nerve-wracking. Most people won’t come right out and say, “I like you.” Instead, they communicate attraction through a blend of subtle verbal cues and body language signals—many of which we easily overlook. Understanding these signs can help you read situations more confidently and avoid misinterpretation.



1. *VERBAL CUES THAT SHOW INTEREST*



Even though attraction is often expressed non-verbally, the way someone talks to you can reveal a lot.




  • *Undivided attention*: People who are drawn to you often look directly into your eyes as you talk, giving you their full focus.

  • *Meaningful questions*: They may ask deeper, more personal questions—wanting to know your feelings, opinions, and inner world.

  • *Warm and enthusiastic responses*: Encouraging comments, excitement in their voice, and genuine interest in your thoughts all signal connection.

  • *Affirming phrases*: Statements like “Tell me more” or “That’s such an interesting way to look at it” usually show someone is invested and looking to build closeness.



These verbal hints often work alongside physical signals, giving you a clearer picture of their intentions.



2. *NON-VERBAL BODY LANGUAGE SIGNS OF ATTRACTION*



Most romantic interest is communicated wordlessly. Here are the major signs experts highlight:



A. *Touch & Physical Proximity*




  • A gentle touch on your arm or shoulder.

  • Standing or sitting closer than necessary.

  • Adjusting their clothes or touching their face when talking to you—often a subconscious sign of attraction.



B. *Mirroring & Synchronization*




  • Mirroring your gestures, posture, or expressions without realizing it.

  • Matching your walking pace, energy level, breathing rhythm, or speech patterns.

    These behaviors create an unconscious sense of harmony and often appear when attraction is mutual.



C. *Subtle Micro expressions*



These tiny signals can be easy to miss:




  • A quick smile or eyes briefly widening when they see you.

  • Leaning in slightly during conversation.

  • Dilated pupils, raised eyebrows, parted lips.

  • Blushing or ears turning red.

  • Feet pointing toward you even if their body is angled away.

  • Fixing hair or clothes when you appear.



These small cues often reveal more than words ever could.



3.*CULTURE & GENDER MATTER*



Non-verbal cues don’t mean the same thing everywhere. For example:




  • In some cultures, eye contact signals interest; in others, it may be considered bold or disrespectful.

  • Men may show attraction more openly, while women may use softer gestures like a tilted head or gentle touch.



This is why knowing someone’s cultural background and personality is key. Context shapes meaning.



4. *AVOID MISINTERPRETATION*



It’s very easy to mistake friendliness for flirting. Someone may appear warm simply because that’s their natural way of relating to others. Before assuming:




  • Look for patterns rather than one-off behaviors.

  • Compare how they interact with others.

  • Consider the setting and your relationship.

  • And when appropriate, communicate openly instead of guessing.



5. *TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS*



While it’s important not to jump to conclusions, don’t totally ignore your intuition. If the signals are consistent and the vibe feels mutual, it’s okay to trust your gut. Attraction is often a mix of what you see and what you sense.



At *Giving Hope Counselling Services*, our experienced therapists can help you confidently navigate the confusing world of dating and attraction. If you often find yourself misreading signals or struggling to know when someone is genuinely interested in you, we’re here to guide you. With expert insight into verbal cues, body language, and healthy relational patterns, we’ll empower you to recognize real interest, trust your instincts, and build meaningful connections with clarity and confidence. Let us walk with you toward relationships that feel safe, mutual, and fulfilling.



Always seek our services by calling/WhatsApp at +*254721240462*/*254733932470* or email us at info@givinghope.co.ke. Also check for more informative articles on our blog on our website www.givinghope.co.ke.



*Peter Mugi Kuruga*



*Counselling Psychologist* | *Marriage and Family Therapist*



 



 


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